A few months ago I shared that I’d joined a local singing group, called Singabout.
Although it was primarily set up for those suffering from dementia and their carers, it is open to all people with an interest in singing for their wellbeing. It’s a vibrant, well attended class with a growing membership of all ages.
This week we welcomed a new family ~ an elderly woman in a wheelchair, accompanied by her son and his wife. They all live together and have recently moved to the Island. For the first hour Mum sat motionless, slumped to one side, looking down ~ completely disengaged from the activity buzzing round her. The younger couple looked a little uncomfortable ~ not knowing what to expect and maybe unfamiliar with our repertoire of old favourites, folk songs and show tunes.
At three o’clock we always break for a cuppa, served by volunteers in an adjoining room. The son asked if they should leave Mum where she was ~ but this social interval is an important part of the afternoon and space was quickly cleared for him to wheel her to the end of a brightly covered table, where they could sit beside her and join in the general chatter.
We returned to singing and I noticed that the old lady was moving her fingers in time to the music. And when we launched into ‘April Showers’ she began to sing along ~ very quietly but word perfect! The son heard his mother’s voice, nudged his wife and they both looked at her with tears in their eyes, as we went through the song a second time together.
Although not exactly smiling, Mum’s face had lifted. She was clearly enjoying this moment ~ and maybe the tender memories it brought back. Who knows? Bless her!
What I do know is that I witnessed proof that, along with all it’s other benefits, music has nurturing and transformative powers….and it’s so much fun!
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